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My self-publishing journey

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At last!  After six long years of drafting, writing, editing and rewriting, my memoir, “Does it wet the bed?” has finally been released on the Kindle Store.  When I started the book, it was a day I didn’t dare to even dream about. I wasn’t convinced that my writing was good enough to be published.

In June 2014, as I began approaching agents and publishers, my confidence dwindled further. As the “Thanks but no thanks” emails took over my inbox, I began to wonder if I should just give up – put down my pen and just focus on my day job – being an Equality and Diversity Trainer.

Then after doing some research, I made a decision.  If I hadn’t secured an agent or a publisher by December 2014, I was going to self-publish my book.  With almost 40 unsuccessful applications, my fate was sealed and I made myself a promise: “Does it wet the bed?” would be released by the end of 2015.

I had a lot of work and many decisions ahead of me!  My first task was to get an editor on board. A Facebook post put me in touch with Norman who, as it turned out, had attended one of my Equality and Diversity courses a few years previously. Norman had experience of self-publishing and proved to be more than just an editor, guiding me through the process and offering invaluable advice on everything from legal issues, formatting, pricing and marketing.  Once Norman had completed the editing, he put me in touch with a colleague who helped me format the book. I began to realise that the world of self-publishing wasn’t about what you knew but who!

Whilst the final touches to the book were in progress, I attended a Self-Publishing Conference at the University of Leicester. I had no idea what my next steps should be and without the backing of a publisher, I knew I’d have to work hard to publicise the book once it was released. It wasn’t going to just sell itself!  It was at the conference that I met Helen Lewis of Literally PR as she gave a workshop on organising a successful book launch.  I decided that whilst I could do a lot, I wasn’t a marketing genius and so I commissioned Literally PR to publicise my book.

With everything slowly coming together, I could finally look towards setting a release date.  I decided to stage my book’s launch by releasing the kindle version on 31st August, with the paperback following on 30th November – just in time for those Christmas Stockings!  Then I decided that all my hard work was worthy of a celebration and so I’m hosting a Book Launch Party on 17th September at the Holiday Inn, M6, Junction 7, in Great Barr.  With a canapé reception, magician and live music, it’ll be an opportunity to really appreciate what I’ve managed to achieve.  For my guests, it’s an opportunity to buy a paperback copy ahead of its official release in November.

I woke up on Monday morning, able to say, “I’m a published author.”  After so long and so much hard work, it’s a great feeling.  I set myself a goal and I didn’t stop until it was achieved.

Who knows what I could achieve by the end of 2016?!

Nerves & Excitement

Posted in Disability Awareness, Does it wet the bed?, Equality & Diversity, Making a difference, My writing, and Personal

I’ve finally finished writing my book.  Years of drafting, redrafting, agonising over the right words to convey my message, are finally at an end and I have set a date for publication: Monday 31st August 2015.

If I thought writing the book was hard, this bit is even more daunting.  Getting the formatting right, finalising the book cover, planning a successful launch and securing good reviews – these are things keeping me awake at night now! I feel like the hard work is only just beginning!  I know that selling the book will be much more difficult than writing it.

Putting your work “out there” for public scrutiny is nerve wracking and I was asked recently how I thought I would react to a negative review or comment. It was a difficult question as I really hope that everyone who buys the book will enjoy it, but I know that I have to be prepared for negative, as well as positive feedback.

But I’m also excited. I can’t wait to hear about my readers’ reactions to “Does it wet the bed?” and what they will take away from reading it.  I wonder who will read it and whether it will  alter the way they view disabled people. I wonder whether it will provoke conversation about how disabled people are treated and how society still needs to change. I hope so.

But more than anything, I hope that people will enjoy reading it as much as I’ve enjoyed writing it!

Disability Awareness for Children

Posted in Cerebral Palsy, Disability and kids, Disability Awareness, Does it wet the bed?, Equality & Diversity, Making a difference, and Personal

Last week, I went to a primary school to deliver my Disability Awareness for Kids workshops. The children were taking part in a Disability Awareness week but I was apprehensive about their reaction to me; a lady in a wheelchair who didn’t speak especially clearly. I realised that talking to a group of children was much more nerve wracking than a room full of adults.

But I needn’t have worried at all. The children were very receptive and I could tell from their reaction that they were understanding me. I explained all about my own disability, Cerebral Palsy, and then talked generally about other disabilities. I really wanted the kids to understand that disability isn’t bad – it’s actually a positive thing that we’re all different, disability or not.

It’s important that children are encouraged to ask questions and have them answered as honestly as possible. I expected questions like, “How fast does your wheelchair go?” or “What’s it like to be in a wheelchair?”   But I was blown away by some of the thoughtful, sensitive questions that some of the kids asked.

“Do you like being so independent?”, came one. I was glad that the children realised that being in a wheelchair wasn’t limiting me in any way. One question puzzled me to begin with, “Do you intend to make your own community?” I wasn’t sure what the pupil meant at first but with a little cajoling and input from his teacher, I realised what he meant. I explained to him that part of Flyinglady’s aim is to help other disabled people to achieve as much as I have and that I would be working on this aspect of my business in the future.

The children kept the questions coming and always seemed content with my straight forward, honest answers. They were especially surprised to hear that I have a little boy of my own and am releasing my own book, “Does it wet the bed?”, shortly. I left each classroom with clapping and a chorus of “thank-you” ringing in my ears. It’s always good to know that I’ve made a difference.

From September 2015, the Disability Awareness for Kids sessions will be available for free to schools in the Birmingham area. To book your session, please Contact Flyinglady.


Does it wet the bed? 3 Chapters available on Authonomy

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After researching quite a bit and talking to other writers and some publishers, I realised that if I want my book to be successful, I have to prove that there is a market for it. But I’d also read that publishers can be put off a book if it has been made public, even partly.

I faced a dilemma and for months, I wrestled with it. I really didn’t want to scupper my chances of getting published but at the same time, I really wanted to show off what I had worked so hard on and hopefully build up what the industry calls a “following“.

So last week, I finally took the plunge and posted the first three chapters of “Does it wet the bed?” on – a website where writers can post their work and readers can comment on and rate books.

Authonomy is free to use so please go and take a look. Any feedback you have will be gratefully received and will help me to improve my work and hopefully, get it published.

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Thanks for your support!

Does it wet the bed? – Free Wheeling

Posted in Cerebral Palsy, Disability Aids, Disability Awareness, Does it wet the bed?, Fighting for Change, My writing, Personal, and Uncategorised

I’m just putting together a book proposal for “Does it wet the bed?” as even though the  book is almost complete, many agents request a proposal as well as sample chapters.

In doing so, I’ve chosen an anecdote to start the overview so I thought I’d share it here! More to come over the coming weeks.

I was at work and my electric wheelchair had broken down. Again. The phone number for the repair service was down ingrained on my memory and I braced myself for another frustrating conversation as I dialled it.

As I’d expected, there were no engineers available for the next three days. The receptionist really didn’t understand the seriousness of the situation and after so many call outs, I was on the verge of losing my patience. I took a long, deep breathe and asked how she expected me to get home safely that evening. Her response was deadly serious: “Can’t you free wheel it home?” It took me a minute to process what she’d said and I almost asked her to repeat herself, just to be sure that I’d heard correctly. Maybe I had wax in my ears? But no, I’d heard her alright and my blood was absolutely boiling. I had to make my explanation to her crystal clear this time:

“If I was capable of free wheeling an electric wheelchair home or anywhere in fact, I wouldn’t require the wheelchair in the first place, would I?.”

Finally time to look for a literary agent

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I’ve been pretty busy over the past few months. As well as working on my campaign to make Great Barr great for Disabled People (Great Barr Accessibility Report), and raising my little boy Jack, I’ve been trying to finalise the first draft of my autobiography.

Although I regularly write articles for my blog and campaign, this is my first book and I’ve been working on it for almost five years, in between working and living life!

Does IT wet the bed?”  tells the story of my life living with Cerebral Palsy and all of the challenges and triumphs along the way.  There have been Headteachers who didn’t believe I could cope with mainstream education; there have been bullies who have picked on me for walking a bit funny. There have also been employers who have discriminated against me because of my disability. But there has also been a 2:1 Honours degree from Oxford Brookes University, as well as a fairytale wedding and my own business. Despite my disability, I’ve achieved almost everything I’ve put my mind too and that’s why I’m writing this book. To show that disabled people are just as capable as anyone else and that if you’re determined enough, anything is possible.

Now that the first draft is almost complete, I have decided to turn my attentions to the huge task of finding a literary agent who is prepared to take me and my work on. After reading the Writers’ and Artists Yearbook 2014, I am not underestimating the time and effort that this will require. There is so much to do in preparation for approaching agents, that it is much more daunting than writing the actual book! I need to prepare a concise synopsis of the book, as well as a chapter summary and research at least five other books which are similar to mine and justify why my book fills a gap in the current market. The list of tasks which lay ahead seems endless!

I’ve invested so much time and effort into the book, that I am absolutely determined that one day soon, it will be available in a bookshop near you!

Right then, where to begin?!

Helpful tools for New Writers

Posted in Does it wet the bed?, My writing, and Personal

Ever since I was young, I’ve enjoyed reading and writing.  I remember being in the final year of primary school and writing a short story which won the annual writing competition.  I was so thrilled and it really ignited my passion for writing.

For years though, people kept telling me that I should write a book about my experiences of living with Cerebral Palsy.  It’s a project that I kept putting on the back burner – always fearing that I wasn’t good enough or that people wouldn’t be that interested.  Later I reasoned that even if it never got published, it would be an enjoyable project and one which I could at least share with family and friends.

As I started making my notes, I began to realise how much material I had – so much in fact that it was difficult to manage.   I had notes everywhere and no idea how to organise them.  My hubby introduced me to OneNote – at first I didn’t quite get it but now I am not sure what I would do without it. I started writing my book using Word and then my hubby introduced me to Scrivener – a programme specifically for writers which enables you to organise notes, sort them into chapters, move text around and compile manuscripts in various formats.  You might think that surely Microsoft Word would suffice for this task but editing and moving text can be very time consuming in 100 page plus document!  Scrivener allows writers to break text down into manageable chunks which can easily be edited and then puts it together, creating a seamless manuscript in seconds.

I’d highly recommend Scrivener to any writer and think it is well worth the small investment – no matter what you’re writing.